At the age of 45, I left corporate America to be a full-time Mother to my two adopted daughters, this is my journey.

Friday, 4/30/10, was my last day of work in corporate America. I escaped the “working mom hamster wheel” during a time when jobs are scarce and the economy is in the tank. I took a huge risk and I don’t have any idea how things will turn out. I have my foot on the pedal, my arms braced on the wheel and a lump in my throat as I headed quickly and almost blindly towards my goal. My decision to leave my job wasn’t money-based. Our family income will drop by 60%, but I have other plans than making money. I have other values than how to amass more things.

I have been working since I was thirteen.  I grew up going to parochial school, acutely aware how much money my family did not have compared to my class mates.  Early on, I worked cleaning houses and baby-sitting, so I could buy school books, a prom dress, and a car, things many of my friends took for granted. After struggling a few years to put myself through college, I joined the U.S. Army for the G.I. Bill and the Army College Fund.

In 1992, I finally graduated cum laude and like so many women in my generation, started climbing the career ladder. However, China changed everything.  In 2004, after years of infertility, “that small, quiet voice”, lead my husband and me on a journey to parenthood. We began the long arduous process of adopting a baby girl from China. In February 2006, we traveled in Guangzhou, China with nine other families to pick up our daughters.  In April 2010, after 15 months of waiting, we adopted our second daughter through a domestic relative adoption.

Over the past year, I have come to the realization that I have not placed “first things first in my life,” to quote Stephen R. Covey.

My family has taken a distant second place to my career.   This fact really came into focus when I had accomplished over 90% of my professional goals but none of my family goals for 2009. 

 You may say, “Are you crazy, quitting your job in this economy?”  Maybe you are right.  However, I have realized that I could have more money or more time, but not both, so I have chosen “time.”


7 Responses to At the age of 45, I left corporate America to be a full-time Mother to my two adopted daughters, this is my journey.

  1. Nancy Chrabot says:

    Hi Mary, I just today found your blog. I really applaud your decision to leave your job to become a full time mom! You will never regret it.
    I stayed home with my 3 boys for many years – (we have elderly children, now all in their twenty’s) and I loved it. I loved that I didn’t miss anything when they were very young, the cute things they used to say to each other, me, etc. I loved being able to bake when I wanted and stay in our jammies .
    When I did go back to work I was a school nurse – so I stayed on a school schedule and loved having summers off. Good luck with the home schooling!

  2. Thanks Nancy, I appreciate your words of encouragement!

  3. Sharon O says:

    I quit my job August of 2009 it has been a year now. Financially we have struggled some but the blessings have been over flowing. Grandma can now spend time with the grand kids…(we have six). It is funny when I quit my job my husband asked me what was I planning to do. It has always been a desire of mine to help young mom’s with their children since we have such a broken society. Like a mentor from an older mom/grandma to a young new mom. Then the idea came to go to the NICU area of the hospital and rock babies (4 out of 5 grand children were preemie one being 2pds 11oz) In the meantime my niece had a baby and had to go back to work. My husband said, “you know you can have what you prayed for and not even leave your home”.
    My niece was thrilled that auntie would watch her little girl, and it all worked out for good she comes three times a week and I can still have free time to write. While she was napping and the house was quiet I started a blog and have guest posted on several other blogs. Quitting my job was the best thing that happened to me.
    God will provide IF we trust him. I just want to encourage you.
    You are doing something very important.
    From a grandma in Oregon

  4. Sharon O says:

    my blog is called Something to think about if you would like to be a reader I will invite you. It is devotional in nature and sometimes I add in my beautiful grand children stories. I did post a few of my oldest grand daughter but when she found out she was happy and excited then she said ‘are you going to post my mom?’ I said ‘No I have to ask her permission… at age 11 Faith said ‘YOU DIDN’T ask for mine’.
    so funny. So grandma is more careful now.

  5. Sharon O says:

    Send me your email address and I will invite you to my blog. Would love your opinion. Feedback is always encouraging.

  6. Sharon O says:

    I invited you to my blog. Be looking for it… I used
    Blog is something to think about.

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